First, a shout out to BethGo. Thanks for coming by! It means a lot to me to meet others out there who know what the stares are like. Who understand the heartbreak of knowing that your child will never be "normal" (I know, I know, she is "normal" but if you are questioning this statement you don't get it). Beth, I have been by your blog too and although haven't had as much time to read it as I'd like I did add it to my favorites so I can find it easily when I have more time. I scrolled around on it and found an entry where you talk about your oldest saying something about a child (I think on a cartoon) without a hand and he asks you what happened and you blow it off and say, dunno- born like that, or something. And then, of course, the irony set in. I can appreciate those moments.
I remember when I got pregnant Michael and I talked about what if our child/ren had Down Syndrome, or what if they had a cleft lip and palate, or what if they had autism. We thought of and discussed every possible scenario (or so we thought) and how we would handle it. When we found out we were having twins we knew there was a chance of cerebral palsy, hindered eye sight and other complications from premature births. We worked out situations. What if...
I think every parent does that. You wonder if your kid will be "normal" or, shall I say "typical". You think about what they will look like, what they will be like. You go through all the probable scenarios.... Downs, autism, club feet, cleft lip, heart problems. You never, ever think about what if your child is missing a bone or a part of their body. Seriously, this thought never crosses your mind. However, as I have said before, people are born missing limbs all the time. Isn't the statistic 500 children every year will be born with a limb difference?
Okay, so here's the deal. I appreciate you mothers who know what this is like. Thank you Lizzie, Mei Mei's mom, thanks again BethGo, thank you, Amy (Helen's mom) and all the others out there who are reading this.
A special thanks to Jenna and Logan. My Seattle friend that can understand what being this kind of mom is like. We can talk about prosthetist appointments, new legs, chafing, physical therapy to ride scooters, how "amazing" our kids are, and, most importantly.... the only other child that Madeleine knows who has a 'leggie', very special indeed. So, Jenna, I hope you don't mind but I am going to encourage all of my readers to check out your blog (click the link above or on the side) so that they can see Logan's fabulous new leg and revel in his awe inspiring scooter work. You trying riding a scooter with a knee that doesn't bend!!!!