Sometimes we get so caught up in the fact that Madeleine is an amputee. I'm talking about myself here. I think about my child with a disability all the time. Madeleine's leg came off in the supermarket yesterday. That wouldn't have been a big deal except that a woman was walking by at the same time telling Max how cute he is.
"Oh," she said.
"She has an artificial leg." I said, as if it wasn't obvious!
"It comes off sometimes if the cart hits it just right."
The lady laughed a bit and said, "Well, she looks happy."
Why wouldn't she be happy? She isn't in pain, I thought.
And then I have people telling me how well she is doing walking. Yes, she is. They tell me she is amazing. Yep, she is.
Amputee will always define Madeleine. Just like her other labels of "twin" and "female". It doesn't have to be all she is though.
If you don't know who Sarah Reinertsen is you should. She gives "amputee" a whole new name.